Comments

Amongst the laughs and cinnamon rolls at Bible study last night we also had some great discussion.  The chapter was about the comments we receive after we lose a baby.  I'm sure if you've lost a baby that you, too, have gotten some comments that have raised your blood pressure or left your mouth hanging wide open.  It is so hard to deal with sometimes, but what she talked about in the book was to look at the person's heart.  Do you think they say the words in love?  Are they trying to be comforting to you?  I'm sure most comments we receive are said in love and concern for us.  This is something I need to remember!!!  Especially when some comments still 'haunt' me!  We also discussed how we feel when people don't say anything at all- when they don't ask how we're doing or ask about our baby.  I think it was pretty much agreed upon all that we'd much rather you say something than nothing at all.  We want our babies to be remembered!  We want to know you remember we even had a baby and we want to know you care for us.  I know sometimes people don't know what to say, but even just, "I'm thinking about you" or "I'm praying for you" works.  I know within the past couple of weeks I've gotten some very touching emails, facebook messages, etc from people I never would've thought were praying for me.  You have no idea how encouraging those words are- such unexpected words!  This is a reminder for myself also, to not only reach out to those who've lost a baby and ask how they're doing, but to reach out to those who may be hurting and tell them they're in my prayers.  On that thought I'm going to do just that!